Been thinking about the fetish for a while now, just for curiosity's sake. And there's only one mystery to the WAM fetish - why do I like this?

I'm a guy who likes stripping down to a Speedo and getting covered in gunge by another guy. It's fun, it's safe and it's ethical, but it isn't "normal." Most people don't feel the same way. I've never stressed out over that but I do wonder why I'm different. I've been wondering for a decade now and I feel the need to put my thoughts down somewhere and Twitter doesn't accept essays so, here we go


1st Theory : You enjoy the humiliation

The first thing you'll read on 'why do people have fetishes?' is that it's the human brain coping with a phobia by turning fear into arousal.

This was the first theory that made sense to me. It's humiliating to be half naked. It's humiliating to be covered in gunge. So a big dose of humiliation and shame must be the end goal of combining the two, right?

But I don't think this is the case. I don't really fantasise about being humiliated outside of being gunged. The one time a partner called me a slut to try and be sexy I laughed it off. So what else could it be?


2nd Theory : You enjoy being seen

Keeping with the phobia theory, but moving to a different phobia.

I'm a pretty introverted person. I don't really enjoy being looked at or being the centre of attention. Like plenty of awkward autistic guys, I dress to disappear - plain shirts, plain trousers.

But being gunged is all about the visual for me. There's nothing more eye-catching than a guy wearing the smallest piece of clothing a man can wear on the beach without breaking the law while he's covered in brightly coloured liquid. Surely the fetish is about being looked at in a controlled environment?

This is a theory I stuck with for a while. It made a lot of sense but I never bought it for some reason. And recently I've come up with a theory that I like a lot more.


3rd Theory : You enjoy not being seen

I'll throw out the whole phobia theory but stick with this fact - I don't like being perceived. It kind of makes me anxious that other people can see me and judge me, that just by physically existing I project so much information about myself: my emotional expression, my dress sense, my entire identity and who I am...

So maybe being gunged is about stopping others from truly perceiving me. I'm stripped basically naked - you won't get much information about me from my skin. Then I'm covered in gunge - removing even that. The person holding the bucket helps destroy my visual identity. Look at the pictures on my profile. You won't see a full person, just a human body covered in gunge.

I think being gunged for me is a kind of ego death. Who I am as a person gets to turn invisible for a while and that's the real joy of being gunged.


Disclaimer: this is just a theory about my own sexuality. I know for a fact this isn't the case for everyone with this fetish - plenty of people here live for the humiliation, and the sensation of gunge pooling around your thighs is its own ecstasy. Just had a lot of thoughts and needed to get them out

These are good questions

I think in my case wam has always brought up topics I didn't know how else to discuss.

Good points, I guess it's different for everyone. For years I just watched videos and found it so hot seeing a woman covered in loads of gunge. Never really delved into the deeper psychological reasons why, it was just my own personal taste and I was happy with that and didn't need to know why. We all like what we like.

I've only recently started getting messy myself, just had a thought of "why not?" after all these years watching it something made me think I should try it. Aside from the amazing physical sensations, which is main reason I continue to do it, I love the fact that it's something ridiculous from the ordinary day to day life that has no purpose other than it's just fun. And fun is a good enough reason for me.

No one knows where any fetishes come from really, it's all a wiring of the brain.
The most cogent theory I have read is that fetishes combine eroticism with taboo, in sploshing this would be "it's bad to get dirty" or being told off for ruining clothes etc. Throw that core belief in with hormones when growing up and they get intertwined and thus getting dirty is both wrong but arousing.
Everyone's MMV though.

Personally I don't think I could put it much better than this "1st Theory : You enjoy the humiliation

The first thing you'll read on 'why do people have fetishes?' is that it's the human brain coping with a phobia by turning fear into arousal."

I always had a fear of the humiliation of being pied or slimed. It is one of my oldest memories tbh. This fear actually still exists and I get it before every messy session. The more fear the greater the arousal and later on the orgasm.

These are fascinating questions which I've often thought about too.
My biggest thing has always been wetlook.
Even as a small child, I liked paddling in my trunks. As I got older, I realised that seeing people getting wet (especially in their clothes) did something far more for me than, say, nudity.
I've wondered if this may be down to my strict upbringing, where any bodily display was seen as obscene and recognition of our sexual feelings was avoided.
Is wetlook unconsciously an "acceptable" alternative to enjoying nudity?
A bit like how film- makers in the 1930's, 40's and 50's sometimes used wet scenes as a means of showing a lady's shape without any nudity, and so passed the censor?
Well, nearly sixty years later I still enjoy getting wet in my trunks, which, as Intogunge says, is safe and fun. I've even enjoyed wetlook with others, which is the best fun I've had in years.
Enjoy, Peter